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Is Excellence Really Its Own Reward?

By Matthew Mitchell
Matthew Mitchell

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Excellence isn’t about rewards—it’s about who you become. By developing mindset habits that prioritize daily discipline and self-improvement, you build a foundation for lasting success. This article explores the power of excellence and how every small action contributes to personal growth and fulfillment.

Overcoming Personal Criticism: The Art of Detaching

By Samantha Fazekas, Trinity College Dublin
Samantha Fazekas, Trinity College Dublin

This philosophical theory can help you stop taking criticism personally

Six Ways to Tackle Imposter Syndrome

By Coline Monsarrat
Coline Monsarrat

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Let’s explore ways to train our brain so we can stride confidently into life’s grand meeting room, project our voice with conviction and aplomb, flipping the script on imposter syndrome. 

Are You A Perfectionist? The Imperfection of Seeking Perfection

By Sue Frederick
Sue Frederick

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Pretending to be perfect—all good, brilliant, enlightened—is an impossible dream here on planet Earth, for we are imperfect human beings. Yet how we waste time longing for it and seeking it in others

Feeling Waaaay More Messed Up Than I Thought I Was

By Ronni Tichenor and Jennie Weaver
Ronni Tichenor and Jennie Weaver

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For years, I thought that my overachieving, perfectionism, and need for control were about proving that I was good enough—being the best, being perfect, was the only way to be “enough.” But a session with an intuitive coach brought something else to the fore...

Trust Comes When You Admit What You Don’t Know

By Tamar Kushnir, Duke University et al
Tamar Kushnir, Duke University et al

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In a landscape of constantly changing science, is communicating with total confidence the best way to win public trust? Maybe not. Our research suggests that, in many cases, people trust those who are willing to say “I don’t know.”

How To Overcome Regret That Can Be All-Consuming

By J. Kim Penberthy, University of Virginia
J. Kim Penberthy, University of Virginia

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Regret is a very real reaction to a disappointing event in your life, a choice you made that can’t be changed, something you said that you can’t take back

How To Keep Those New Year’s Resolutions?

By Mark Canada and Christina Downey, Indiana University
Mark Canada and Christina Downey, Indiana University

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If research on habit change is any indication, only about half of New Year’s resolutions are likely to make it out of January, much less last a lifetime.

Finding Our Own Definitions of Beauty

By Allison Carmen
Allison Carmen

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Definition of beauty, Merriam-Webster dictionary: "that which gives the highest degree of pleasure to the senses or the mind. . . ."

Finding Our Own Definitions of Beauty (Video)

By Allison Carmen
Allison Carmen

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Definition of beauty, Merriam-Webster dictionary: "that which gives the highest degree of pleasure to the senses or the mind. . . ."

On Perfectionism: Allowing Ourselves to Relax

By Jill Downs
Jill Downs

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How can perfectionism be a stumbling block on the path? Having the compulsive need to be perfect can be very hard on anyone. Being a perfectionist creates problems, not only for the individual who suffers from it, but for those around them.

8 ways to manage body image anxiety

By Tracy Tylka, Professor of Psychology, The Ohio State University
Tracy Tylka, Professor of Psychology, The Ohio State University

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Being able to socialize again may bring enthusiasm and a sense of normalcy – but it may also increase anxiety over how

 

Procrastination or Living in the Now… Why Choose One Over The Other

By Marie T. Russell
Marie T. Russell

Procrastination

Things are sure coming to the surface lately. It seems that issues we have managed to avoid for years are now rearing their heads to be faced. Our way of dealing with reality, or in some cases of avoiding dealing with reality, has come back to...

Are You A Perfectionist or An Imperfectionist?

By Alan Cohen
Alan Cohen

Are You A Perfectionist or An Imperfectionist?

A friend of mine declared, "I used to think I was a perfectionist. I found the tiniest flaws in everything. Then I realized I was not a perfectionist at all; I was an imperfectionist! If I was a perfectionist, I would see perfection wherever I look."

Striving to Become “Enough” On The Frantic Hamster Wheel

By Kate Eckman
Kate Eckman

Striving to Become “Enough” On The Frantic Hamster Wheel

If you looked at my life from the outside, you might be surprised to learn that I spent most of my years getting in my own way. Despite achieving many goals and building a successful career, I was often in turmoil, filled with anxiety and insecurity.

10 Reasons Why Men Suffer

By Barry Vissell
Barry Vissell

10 Reasons Why Men Suffer

I recently finished leading an online men's retreat. Every one of us got deeply vulnerable and, because of this, shared a profound love and brotherhood. There emerged a kind of kaleidoscope of men's issues... Each one of us shared pieces of the puzzle of why men suffer.

10 Reasons Why Men Suffer (Video)

By Barry Vissell
Barry Vissell

10 Reasons Why Men Suffer (video)

I recently finished leading an online men's retreat. Every one of us got deeply vulnerable and, because of this, shared a profound love and brotherhood. There emerged a kind of kaleidoscope of men's issues... Each one of us shared pieces of the puzzle of why men suffer.

I Asked Hundreds of People About Their Biggest Life Decisions. Here's What I Learned

By Adrian R. Camilleri
Adrian R. Camilleri

Post pointing in 3 different directions: This Way, That Way, and The Other Way

You make decisions all the time. Most are small. However, some are really big: they have ramifications for years or even decades. In your final moments, you might well think back on these decisions — and some you may regret.

Releasing the Judgement -- of Everything

By Tur?ya
Tur?ya

Releasing the Judgement -- of Everything

It’s easy to sit in judgement and torture ourselves. I thought the pain and fatigue were temporary. I thought I was being weak. I convinced myself it was nothing to worry about, and all I needed to do was exercise more and work harder.

One Word Every Perfectionist Needs to Know

By Julian Reeve
Julian Reeve

One Word Every Perfectionist Needs to Know

I’d just conducted a performance of the Broadway musical Hamilton in San Francisco in 2017 when I experienced a heart attack on my way home. Tests proved that my right coronary artery was 90% blocked, and two stents were placed to get me on the road to recovery. I was 43 years old.

Finally Believing in Yourself: Love Yourself, Love Life, Love Others

By Diana Rowan
Diana Rowan

Finally Believing in Yourself: Love Yourself, Love Life, Love Others

Many peo­ple suffer from Impostor Syndrome. Even those who have the highest academic, artistic, and business-related achievements suffer from feelings of unworthiness.

What is Beauty? Beauty is in the Heart of the Beholder

By Sarah Mane
Sarah Mane

What is Beauty? Beauty is in the Heart of the Beholder

One day at a retreat - I was quite young at the time - I was in a group, and we were asked to fall deeply still and find a restful place within. Then, when we opened our eyes, we saw a projected image of a beautiful peach-coloured rose...

Living A Guilt-Free Life

By Barry Vissell
Barry Vissell

Living A Guilt-Free Life

What is guilt? Most people know the answer. It's the feeling of responsibility for doing something wrong, or having done something wrong in the past. I would say we all have this feeling of guilt. It's universal. We've all made mistakes, sometimes big ones. And feelings of guilt are too often the result.

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